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Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
S & S # 3 (Dated 11th Dec. 2016)
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
- Dr. Richard Carlson, Ph. D
“Whenever we are dealing with a
Bad news, a difficult person, or a disappointment of some kind, most of us get into certain habits, ways of
reacting to life – particularly adversity – that don’t serve us very well. We overreact,
blow things out of proportion, hold on too tightly, and focus on the negative
aspects of life. When we are immobilized by little things – when we are
irritated, annoyed, and easily bothered – our (over-) reaction not only make us
frustrated but actually get in the way of getting what we want. We lose sight
of the bigger picture, focus on the negative, and annoy other people who might
otherwise help us. In short, we live our lives as if they were one great emergency!
We often rush around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality we
often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, we end
up spending our lives dealing with one drama after another. After a while, we
begin to believe that everything really is a big deal. We fail to recognize that the way we relate
to our problems has a lot to do with how quickly and efficiently we solve them”.
“Often we allow ourselves to get
all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that
big deal. We focus on little problems and concerns and blow them way out of
proportion. A stranger, for example, might cut in front of us in traffic.
Rather than let it go, and go on with our day, we convince ourselves that we
are justified in our anger. We play out an imaginary confrontation in our mind.
Many of us might even tell someone else about the incident later on rather than
simply let it go”.
“Why not instead simply allow the
driver to have his accident somewhere else? Try to have compassion for the
person and remember how painful it is to be in such an enormous hurry. This
way, we can maintain our own sense of well-being and avoid taking other people’s
“There are many similar “small
stuff” examples that occur every day in our lives. Whether we had to wait in
line, listen to unfair criticism or to do the lion’s share of the work, it pays
enormous dividends if we learn not o worry about little things. So many people
spend so much of their life energy “sweating the small stuff” that they
completely lose touch with magic and beauty of life. When you commit to working
towards this goal you will find that you will have far more energy to be kinder
-Word to word adopted from the book “Don’t Sweat
The Small Stuff … and it’s all small stuff”
by Dr. Richard Carlson, Ph. D. – Simple ways to keep the Little things
from taking over your life. (Pages 1,2, 7 & 8)
Colonel (Retd.) BinayKumar (Hazaribagh district of Jharkhand) is promoting an unique pump (he named it PrakritiJalUrja) in Jharkhnad which runs on hydraulic pressure. It does not require fuel of any kind (diesel / petrol, electricity, human or animal driven). It runs for 24 hours. It is environment friendly and pollution free. It can be used for multipurpose i.e. Community Rural Water Supply, Micro-irrigation, for animal use etc. It is suitable for hilly and mountainous areas of India. Quality of life of poor tribal people who lives in remote hilly and forest area will improve significantly if we promote this pump widely.
CONGRATULATION Col. BinayKumar for your innovation and continuous effort.
By Marguerite Theophil, The Times of India, Ranchi (Saturday, January 1, 2011)
A gift of a bracelet from Ghana at first looks like a series of linked hearts, but on closer inspection i notice a stylised bird. I learn that this is the Sankofa, a mythical bird from their culture that flies forward while looking backward, with an egg held in its mouth.
The word Sankofa derives from the Akan people, a West African ethnic group that today resides in Ghana and the Ivory Coast. The Akan, over centuries, developed a highly artistic and communicative system of ideographic and pictographic symbols, each representing a specific concept, proverb or saying rooted in the Akan experience. These symbols can be found used extensively in indigenous textiles, metal and wood work, jewellery and architecture, too.
The older African religions had no sacred texts. Their beliefs were handed down mostly orally through proverbs and stories or through pictorial symbols. A proverb from which the concept an…
S & S # 7 (dated 1st April 2017)
person to welcome you in this world. 2. FATHER The first
person to go through all the hardships just to see you smile. 3. SIBLING The first
person to teach you the art of sharing and caring. 4. FRIEND The first
person to teach you how to respect people with different opinions and
viewpoints. 5. LIFE
PARTNER The first
person to make you realise the value of sacrifice and compromise. 6. YOUR
CHILDREN The first
ones to teach you how to be selfless and think about others before yourself. 7. YOUR
GRANDCHILDREN The first
ones who make you want to live the life, all over again.
-Courtesy : “Health” (Cross Reference WISDOM, March